My Thoughts…. I recently read in the paper about a woman and her 3 children who were found dead, murdered. Her family said it was a Domestic Violence situation. Every time I hear about these types of cases I say, “When will it stop!
In my book, Run for your Life, From the Love of Your Life, a Woman’s Rescue and Recovery Guide. I make it a point to let women know there is a way to stop Domestic Violence. That way is very plain and to the POINT. Love Yourself more than You “think” you love him.
As a former Battered Wife, I can see where this can be harder to do than it sounds, I’ve been on both sides of the matter. I know that a woman who is attracted to an abusive man has some beliefs she has not dealt with. Some she may not even been aware of, that leads her into a toxic relationship. Some women believe that a man beating them means he “loves” them. I know a few women who feel this way. And they will never leave their man, no matter what he does to them.
I wish my book could help them, but I want to reach the teens and women who know they deserve better, but need to have a voice continue to tell them that. I am that voice. To any woman who is in a negative relationship, for any amount of time, but now feels she wants more, like a loving relationship, to feel at peace, to smile and to be happy, after being sad for so long. I want you to know you can have all of that and more. Self-Love is the Key!
Self-love can literally save your life. It can also put you on the path to health, happiness, love and good fortune. It can bring good, loving people into your life. People who will appreciate you and love you for who you are, just as you are.
Self-love is being there for you and knowing when something and someone is not good for you. Be it a relationship, a job, a career, etc. To start on the path of self-love you must first become aware of what makes you feel good and what doesn’t. Being criticized, and beat-down doesn’t make you feel good. Being told you are a beautiful, wonderful, amazing person does. Taking better care of your body, mind and emotions is self-love. If you aren’t sure where to start just read my book, Run for Your Life, from the Love of Your Life, A Woman’s Rescue and Recovery Guide. available on Amazon.
And come back to my blog regularly for more topics to help women in negative relationships learn to release the beliefs that put them there, and learn new ones to take them forward.
If you were beaten, abused, threatened or called horrible names by your husband or boyfriend yesterday. Then TODAY can be the day you move closer to freedom.
TODAY is not yesterday. Today can be the day you decide to take that step out of a bad relationship. TODAY is not yesterday. Today can be the day you decide to make an escape plan. TODAY is not yesterday. Today can be the day you decide you deserve more than your getting. Today can be the day you decide you are worth the effort it’s going to take to have a happier, safer life. Today can be the day your life can truly get better.
Today can be the day, you love yourself more than you “think” you love him. Today can be the day your true loving future begins. Today can be the day you read the words that can change your life.
TODAY is not yesterday. Today can be the day you’ve been waiting for.
My Thoughts on Waking Up
Just when you think your life is finally on track, something happens to let you know you still have work to do on yourself.
If you’ve read my book, Run for Your Life, From the Love of Your Life, a Woman’s Rescue and Recovery Guide. I devote a chapter on all the symptoms and diseases that can come into your body, mind, and soul, when you’re in an abusive relationship–PTSD is one of them.(Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). What I didn’t realize was how it can continue to affect your life, even when you think everything is fine.
I knew I was suffering from it because I would JUMP 2 feet high if I heard the sound of a man’s LOUD voice. Or an unexpected door slamming. And I probably paid for my naprapath’s vacations with all the appointments for the chronic back and neck pains I’ve had after my divorce, and I continue to see her for the same symptoms, years later. The chronic muscle strains in my back and neck, along with the anxiety I feel just knowing I might run into my ex, sends shivers through me. And this is after I’ve been out of that marriage for years. Let’s not even talk about how hard it’s been to trust again.
Yet none of these chronic symptoms “clicked” with me. I just thought this was the years catching up with me. Well, it took a sleepless night, one of many for my brain to say OK. Something is not right. I so wanted to be ok, I fought this realization so hard. I did everything I thought was right after that marriage, I went to see a therapist, I exercised, ate right, did yoga. Yet, I knew my body’s memory, through my muscles was holding on to what I’d been through. I knew I finally had to do something about it. My body deserved better and I deserved better.
We hear of soldiers going through PTSD, being in a war. But women in abusive relationships are also traumatized from being in a war-like state. And, like soldiers, can be traumatized for years or a lifetime. THE WORD NEEDS TO GET OUT!
Women, if you been through; Physical, Emotional, and/or Psychological abuse with your husband or boyfriend, you have some form of PTSD.
In my book, Run for Your Life, from the Love of your Life. I tell women to get counseling, that is so important. But, I have found that Body-work such as; Yoga for Trauma, Massage, Reiki are also extremely important. PTSD is in your mind, emotions, and muscles. So, if you find that you still need counseling, do it. I started doing Yoga for Trauma and Stress Relief, as well as getting more massages. I intend on doing it for as long as needed. I urge every woman, regardless of how you are feeling now to try it. You just may find it to be just what the Dr. ordered.