My Thoughts…. “Like a machine, he doesn’t feel pain, he feels no emotion, no pity, or remorse. ” “He can’t be bargained with, can’t be reasoned with, and will absolutely not stop until you are dead.” Those are the words from the film, “The Terminator” describing the cyborg, half-man, half-machine who was sent to kill, “Sara Connor.”
When I think of those words describing a “terminator” it makes me think of the types of men who are real life terminators. The men you read about every day online or in the newspaper who will stop at nothing to kill their former wives or girlfriends. And like a terminator they have no remorse, no emotion and can’t be reasoned with. They have no empathy, or guilt for what they are trying to do. They just want her removed from the face of the earth. While the ex-wives and girlfriends just want to get on with their lives in peace and safety, free from the threat of abuse or death from their ex.
Newspapers are filled with the stories of these, “terminators” snuffing out the lives of vibrant women daily. And just like the fictional “terminator” these terminators are difficult if almost impossible to stop.
What can be done now. First, you must file a report with the police, get it on paper and on file that he is harassing you or threatening you. Second, tell as many people as you can, so that others can be on alert too. Third, get an order of protection, I know many of these men won’t abide by it. But, sometimes it can help. Now some good news. A national law has been passed, the Violence Against Women Act. It gives police and judges more leeway in helping women. It gives them more training on the various aspects to look for in a domestic violence situation and take action. It also prevents convicted abusers of having the ability to get a gun or firearm, And, it will inform women when an abuser is out of jail, some abusers are also made to wear ankle bracelets so their whereabouts are known.
Some will still slip through the cracks and do what they do regardless. It must be up to the woman to protect herself and stay safe. Sometimes you must do what you need to do to stay safe, it’s legal now in all 50 states.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month- Be Safe